Explore love, friendship, mid-life dating and sexual pleasures in this wonderful read!

22nd May 2022
Booknerds Team

Are you looking for a book that focuses on mid-life relationships and addresses rarely discussed issues? Then you should positively get your hands on this debut Poetry Book, 'You Still Look The Same,' by Farzana Doctor. The book contains a collection of poems, her thoughts and a glance into her forties. The poems generally focus on heartbreak, blossoming new love, and the dating experience of a forty-two-year-old woman. Some poems also shed light on unfounded religious conventions that we continue to follow. We keep handing down the wrong rituals to our children and grandchildren. The book is a compilation of ideas written in crisp, easy-to-understand language and concrete.

Diving Deep
The book is divided into four parts which consist of poems from different niches. This methodological arrangement makes the reader focus on one particular message the author is trying to convey using her poems. By the time we learnt to operate gadgets, we can understand that there are lots of things our parents probably skipped to teach us. It is what Blame it on childhood portrays. The author has turned Hot Yoga into a humorous poem, which will make the reader go LOL.
The poem Carried Away speaks about heartbreak. One moves out of a relationship when broken from the inside. Left with nothing to say except a simple OKAY. In the poem, Forty-three the author tried to show how everything changes when you start ageing but deep down, you want that inner child to stay alive and sometimes our old self struggles to fit into that attire the author beautifully depicts this in a witty way

"My head aches,
blisters bubble at heels,
waistband digs a trench around belly.
New date says: you look sexy.
I blush and swoon.”

One should never consider age as a permission letter to do things you enjoy the most. One should not stop living because you have stepped into your forties or fifties. Date night is a poem on fresh new love and the bubbles it brings with it. Love is a tricky thing; it is unpredictable when it will change for someone.

The poem Zainab which comes after the 'Khatna Suite' will make the readers numb it shows the pain and discomfort a girl faces after imposing all the false norms like ‘khatna’ or genital cutting in the name of Allah, she depicts the actual pain in these lines,
"but there are nights
alone in bed
when all I feel is
your stamp of shame"

In the poem, Twitter trolls aka Bohra women for “religious freedom” the author nailed it. It is a 'Woke' society but sometimes we continue following wrong rituals in the name of religion or ‘dharma’ without thinking twice. And if someone speaks against these rituals they are being muted, catcalled and even harassed. An imagined mithi sitabi for seven years old asked to teach children how a human being should be and teach children about their land. In the following lines,
"Ask them to be better,
to be gracious,
to be merciful."

The author asked parents to raise their children to love rather than hate.
Childhood friendships are the purest form. Hard to find, difficult to leave. The author writes the same in You Still Look The Same. It is about her longing to meet her friend. Now she again succeeds in meeting with her friend with the help of Facebook.
The poems like forty- three, Zainab, You still look the same, carried away, the poems related to Bohra

Are you looking for a book that focuses on mid-life relationships and addresses rarely discussed issues? Then you should positively get your hands on this debut Poetry Book, 'You still look the same,' by Farzana Doctor. The book contains a collection of poems, her thoughts and a glance into her forties. The poems generally focus on heartbreak, blossoming new love, and the dating experience of a forty-two-year-old woman. Some poems also shed light on unfounded religious conventions that we continue to follow. We keep handing down the wrong rituals to our children and grandchildren. The book is a compilation of ideas written in crisp, easy-to-understand language and concrete.

Diving deep
The book is divided into four parts which consist of poems from different niches. This methodological arrangement makes the reader focus on one particular message the author is trying to convey using her poems. By the time we learnt to operate gadgets, we can understand that there are lots of things our parents probably skipped to teach us. It is what Blame it on childhood portrays. The author has turned Hot Yoga into a humorous poem, which will make the reader go LOL.
The poem Carried Away speaks about heartbreak. One moves out of a relationship when broken from the inside. Left with nothing to say except a simple OKAY. In the poem, Forty-three the author tried to show how everything changes when you start ageing but deep down, you want that inner child to stay alive and sometimes our old self struggles to fit into that attire the author beautifully depicts this in a witty way

"My head aches,
blisters bubble at heels,
waistband digs a trench around belly.
New date says: you look sexy.
I blush and swoon.”

One should never consider age as a permission letter to do things you enjoy the most. One should not stop living because you have stepped into your forties or fifties. Date night is a poem on fresh new love and the bubbles it brings with it. Love is a tricky thing; it is unpredictable when it will change for someone.

The poem Zainab which comes after the 'Khatna Suite' will make the readers numb it shows the pain and discomfort a girl faces after imposing all the false norms like ‘khatna’ or genital cutting in the name of Allah, she depicts the actual pain in these lines,
"but there are nights
alone in bed
when all I feel is
your stamp of shame"

In the poem, Twitter trolls aka Bohra women for “religious freedom” the author nailed it. It is a 'Woke' society but sometimes we continue following wrong rituals in the name of religion or ‘dharma’ without thinking twice. And if someone speaks against these rituals they are being muted, catcalled and even harassed. An imagined mithi sitabi for seven years old asked to teach children how a human being should be and teach children about their land. In the following lines,
"Ask them to be better,
to be gracious,
to be merciful."

The author asked parents to raise their children to love rather than hate.
Childhood friendships are the purest form. Hard to find, difficult to leave. The author writes the same in You still look the same. It is about her longing to meet her friend. Now she again succeeds in meeting with her friend with the help of Facebook.
The poems like forty- three, Zainab, You still look the same, carried away, the poems related to Bohra women should reach readers. The easy flowing writing keeps the reader intrigued.

Recommended To
The book is recommended for those above 13+ years of age, as there is vocabulary that children cannot grasp. It is a breezy read and should be read slowly. The book is a combination of humorous, witty, and serious poems that will make the reader stick to the book. The reader can explore learning about love, friendship, mid-life dating and sexual pleasures and the problems faced by the girl child in the form of genital cutting.

The book is recommended for those above 13+ years of age, as there is vocabulary that children cannot grasp. It is a breezy read and should be read slowly. The book is a combination of humorous, witty, and serious poems that will make the reader stick to the book. The reader can explore learning about love, friendship, mid-life dating and sexual pleasures and the problems faced by the girl child in the form of genital cutting.

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